Cavs Fans and Kyrie Irving Both Can Benefit From Lessons of the Past

Kyrie Irving

“’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

I don’t know who originally said that quote, but I think in life that’s probably a good rule of thumb. Obviously this quote would seemingly apply to romantic love, but love can come in many different forms. So too, then, can this quote have many far reaching applications in life.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot in recent weeks, as we as a community of Cavaliers fans continue to deal with the fallout of LeBron James turning his back on us. This holds especially weighty context as Kyrie Irving continues a meteoric rise toward stardom.

To compare and contrast LeBron James and Kyrie Irving is wholly unfair. The two couldn’t be more different in almost every way: as people, as basketball players, as ambassadors of the Cavaliers franchise. Well, we’ll get to that 3rd one in a minute. But certainly they are different men, different players, different backgrounds, different futures.

But yet there is an inevitable tie between the two that grows every time Kyrie Irving steps onto the court and does something that makes all Cavaliers fans shake their heads in disbelief at the 19 year old rookie PG doing something we’ve not seen since that 18 year old rookie used to roam these halls. Because of what LeBron James did to this franchise, the city of Cleveland, and really, to the whole state of Ohio, Kyrie is always going to be judged slightly differently. Call it innocence lost, if you will, but there are some things that will never be forgotten, and some wounds that never fully heal.

So is it better to have loved and lost? No matter how much I hear Cavs fans sheepishly lie to themselves and others and offer up revisionist history about how “I never really liked LeBron that much”, and “I’m glad he’s gone, he was always a quitter, he never performed in the 4th quarter”, and other such nonsense, the fact of the matter is that LeBron James was more beloved in Cleveland than any other athlete I have ever seen in my life.

It’s easy to forget, I suppose, how LeBron would light up the Q, how a packed arena would joyously join in communion with LeBron as he offered up his chalk tossing ceremony. How we used to love watching LeBron joke around and laugh hysterically with his teammates on the bench as the Cavaliers were en route to another destruction of another opposing team. The jerseys, the shirts, the posters, the billboards, the blogs, the talk radio calls, and on and on and on. LeBron’s presence was ubiquitous in daily life in Cleveland. The city really was his kingdom.

It’s why the fallout has been so visceral, so real. This was so much more than a guy exercising his free agent right to play for another team. This was loving, and ultimately losing. It was a roller coaster ride unlike anything I’ve ever experienced in sports, and I doubt I ever will again. The odds of another transcendent mega-superstar playing in Cleveland, for our team, are beyond slim. The odds of another transcendent mega-star being from Cleveland, and the Cavaliers winning the lottery, and picking him, are non-existent. This was a once in a lifetime situation.

And we as fans dared to believe. We stood up for LeBron when others doubted him. We turned a blind eye to the complaining about calls, the uncomfortably awkward reactions to things like being dunked on in a pickup game at a Nike camp, etc. Above all else, we dared to trust him, that he would not only lead the city to that oh-so-painfully-elusive championship, but that he would also pick us in free agency.

So yeah, we loved and we lost. And you know what? The saying is right. It’s better than having never loved at all. Where would this franchise be without LeBron James? Dan Gilbert wouldn’t be the owner, Chris Grant wouldn’t be the man with the plan, Byron Scott wouldn’t be the cool and collective coach developing young players, and Kyrie Irving probably wouldn’t be the new hope.

Another famous Irving, Washington Irving, once said “Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.”. Which brings us back to Kyrie Irving. The Cleveland fans’ love for LeBron James was ultimately unrequited, which sucked. But despite all the national pundits’ inane demands that we “get over it already”, Cavs fans actually picked themselves up a long time ago.

The anger may never fully go away, and why should it? Why should Cleveland fans apologize for being so disappointed that not only did our homegrown superstar leave, but he left a team that won 60+ games back to back seasons. LeBron was MVP in back to back seasons. Cleveland was among the top 2 or 3 contenders for the Championship in back to back seasons. And LeBron not only walked away from that, but he stabbed the franchise in the back in doing so. No common courtesy of letting Dan Gilbert and the front office staff know ahead of time? Going on national TV to inform the Cleveland fan base that gave so much love and loyalty that, you know what, we just weren’t good enough for LeBron.

So yeah, Cleveland fans were mad about it. And quite frankly, the national media are the ones who can “get over it”. This fan is done apologizing for it. That night of the decision was real, and it was raw. There was a lot of emotion and a lot of intensity. But the thing everyone seems to forget is how resilient Cavs fans were. Resilient to the point of being defiant.

Cavs fans didn’t wallow in sorrow. Cavs fans haven’t abandoned the franchise. If anything, the community of Cavs fans has grown more united and more together than ever before. We find ways to have a blast rooting for marginally talented players like Manny Harris and Christian Eyenga. Sure, it might not be as much fun as watching LeBron James tear other teams apart like the old days, but it’s still fun.

But now there’s Kyrie Irving. Words can’t describe the immense pressure of walking into this franchise at 19 years old and more or less filling the role of LeBron James. Kyrie has talked a lot about carving his own path, and he’s well on his way of doing that. But still, deep down, I think we all feel it. That familiar pull. That inner desire to see Kyrie Irving lift this franchise to the one place LeBron James never could.

Those expectations are unfair, and Cavs fans deserve credit for not explicitly putting that pressure on him. And that’s where the lessons of LeBron come into play. The number one reason it’s better to have loved and lost is because of the lessons we learn from losing. Cavs fans are already 10000% united behind Kyrie. But even still, the fans won’t quite treat Kyrie like we treated LeBron. It’s always going to be different.

Some people talk about that one bad heartbreak, where a scar is left behind on the heart. That could be applicable in a sports sense, too. That scar will remind us of what LeBron James did. But at the same time, Washington Irving’s thoughts are coming true as well. Cavs fans are ready for what’s next. We’re ready to put our hope into Kyrie Irving. The trade of Ramon Sessions and likely loss of Antawn Jamison after this season means one thing. It’s 100% Kyrie’s show now.

And so as Kyrie celebrates his 20th birthday today, it’s kind of symbolic. Kyrie is moving on from the teenage chapter of his life to the prime of his professional life. And so too are Cavs fans ready for the next chapter in our franchise’s story. I feel like everyone from the owner down to the fans are so much smarter in a basketball sense for having gone through the LeBron chapter. Not just smarter, but better prepared. No longer are we going to rely on one player to deliver a title. It’s now about building the right team. But at the center of that team, there has to be a leader and a face of a franchise. For Cleveland, that leader is turning into Kyrie Irving right in front of us.

I for one, am excited about this next chapter, and couldn’t be happier to have Kyrie Irving at the controls. So Happy Birthday, Kyrie. Our franchise is now your franchise.

  • kyrunch time

    Great article! The way Kyrie has handled the spotlight, and late game situations are so far ahead of my expectations. On an unrelated note, its nice he doesnt talk about being a billionaire or have a ‘crew’ with him at all times.

  • LBCavsfan

    It’s funny you write this article as yesterday I happened to stumble on old footage on you tube of game six cavs pistons when we clinched the ecf. The crowd was absolutely going nuts and lebron and z and Andy and all the players seemed genuinely moved. I don’t remember ever seeing the Mia fans that worked up in last years play offs so maybe lbj does sincerely miss his playing days in cle. I for one wouldn’t give up those seven years for anything as the cavs were always relevant and true title contenders for at least four of them. If Kyrie can even take the cavs close to that level it will be a miracle and one I will enjoy every minute of.

  • opal

    he is the reason i am a cleveland cavaliers fans hes so great to watch.

  • swig

    With all due respect to the rest of the staff, your Cavs articles are what got me reading WFNY everyday.  The hook in chorus if you will.  Another fantastic piece here.

    The Mavs winning the finals healed the wounds for me.  I never think about pain from the past watching this years team.  The fond memories are there, but sort of faint.  I’m excited for the future, and excited that people have stuck with the team.

  • mgbode

    I remember watching Kyrie his first few games and Duke and getting caught up cheering for Duke.   And I hate them.   That’s how good he was.

    As for LeBron, I cheered for him when he was in Cleveland as hard as I now cheer against him in Miami.  

  • Harv 21

    “The two couldn’t be more different in almost every way: as people, as basketball players, as ambassadors of the Cavaliers franchise.”

    Different player, sure, but we can only read tea leaves as to what type of a person he is and will be. Broken record time: we do not know this kid, and this isn’t the cry of fan on the rebound. All we know is that  he’s a talented competitive athlete who knows how to say the right things. Same as LeBron. And that he hasn’t embarrassed the city with publicized off-court shenanigans. Neither did LeBron. Let’s just enjoy his play, not make him the unwilling target of our dreams/complexes about our hopes and dreams and the city of Cleveland.  

    He’s 20 and all that implies, and a professional athlete and all that implies. Can’t we just watch and enjoy and keep it simple? 

  • Gleep Glop

    very well written

  • Boomhauertjs

    “Where would this franchise be without LeBron James?”

    Probably Oklahoma City…

  • Boomhauertjs

    “Where would this franchise be without LeBron James?”

    Probably Oklahoma City…

  • Boomhauertjs

    Their backgrounds are entirely different. Kyrie’s dad works as a financial advisor in NYC. Gloria James worked the street corners in Akron.

  • Boomhauertjs

    Their backgrounds are entirely different. Kyrie’s dad works as a financial advisor in NYC. Gloria James worked the street corners in Akron.

  • Harv 21

    True, but not necessarily relevant. Betting Gloria wanted her son to stay here close to her mansion. Kyrie’s father may be calculating how much $ he’s losing in this market. Have you ever met the d-bag child of a financial advisor? (I’ve known more than one). In the end, he’s a great athlete we have the privilege of watching up close and personal for some unknown but finite period of time. Not getting caught up in the “He’s the anti-Lebron, he has a father, he gets us” fantasy. While he’s here, I’d just enjoy it rather than attempt to throw a non-sports template over the kid. Not fair to him or us.

  • Jay

    I stood up & slow-clapped after reading this article. Outstanding!!!

  • Luke McLaughlin

    wow. great article. articles like this are why i come to WFNY daily. 

  • BrownsFanSF

    I completely agree.  I was pretty bitter most of last year, but after the Cavs for Mavs thing it really just kinda went away.  I really really enjoy watching this team play

  • BrownsFanSF

    Great article!  One of the best from the site so far

  • Andrew Schnitkey

    Thanks Swig, I appreciate that.

  • BrownsFanSF

    I’m a huge Dukie, and anyone who watched those first 6 or 7 games of Kyrie’s knew this kid is special.  Without the toe injury there is a good chance they would have gone undefeated (by the time the tourney came around Kyrie actually kinda hurt their flow).

    I also get what your saying about Kyrie’s magnetism.  Me and a buddy were talking about it the other day.  He has that Magic Johnson, Steve Nash sorta “there is nothing in the world I’d rather be doing right now” smile while he plays.

  • Andrew Schnitkey

    To be honest, that’s kind of my point. This is where it’s different. I think we’re all way more guarded with Kyrie than we were with LeBron. My point in them being different wasn’t to say Kyrie would never leave or whatever, it was merely to point out that a comparison isn’t fair. Kyrie and LeBron really are quite different. 

    But I think none of us would be so naive as to say that Kyrie will become what LeBron wasn’t, or that he’ll never leave. How could anyone possibly say that after LeBron left? This is why I think we’re smarter fans for having gone through the LeBron stuff. We’re enjoying Kyrie without putting that excessive pressure on him.

  • Andrew Schnitkey

    I agree. From the first time I saw Kyrie play, I knew I wanted the Cavs to draft him. And I have family in North Carolina and root for UNC as my 2nd team, so I am also predisposed to hating Duke. But I didn’t care, I saw that much potential in Kyrie. I couldn’t be happier to see him living up to that potential in the wine and gold.

  • Harv 21

    I know we basically agree, Andrew. I am admittedly sensitive to anyone thinking they know what type of person any star athlete is, even just to contrast to another athlete. The best guys are schooled at a young age to say the right thing and avoid saying other things. Certain ones are actually able to do that, but …[stopping myself for the good of the pack, no one needs a one-note Charlie, you get the drift}  

  • Mike E

    After all this praise lets hope it doesn’t go to Andrew’s head and he goes all Lebron on us and take his talents elsewhere.  ha

    Great article bud!

  • OsuCavs

    Awesome awesome article man. Couldn’t agree more. I definately wouldn’t give up those year with lebron, but I definitely think we learned some valuable lessons, and we’ll apply those to ensure we can build a real TEAM behind kyrie. (no offense to Big Z or Andy, everyone else on those teams? Ya, you shouldn’t have started/played big minutes for a contender.  really that’s true for Big Z too the last year or two, but he’s to classy to try and offend)

  • Seth Kretser

    Tennyson said it. Do you know what Google is, or did you just want to start your article with a stupid rhetorical device?

  • Jack Brickman

    Now I just wish Gilbert would buy the Browns and the Indians too.

  • Co811809

    To be fair to lebron ‘kyrunch’ he wasnt as egotistical his rookie season. however i feel that in no way will kyrie turn into the type of person that lebron is now

  • kavsfan

     Great Article.

    Harv 21- I think what isn’t fair is your labeling the children of financial advisors d-bags. While it is quite common for the children of very successful people to have a distorted sense of entitlement, there are many who accept and realize the benefits of what their family offers them in order to be successful themselves in life- much like Kyrie.

    Also, I feel his family situation compared to leprawns is actually quite relevant- if you look at nearly all the great b-ball players in history, they continually come from families with a strong male or fatherly influence, which leprawn clearly lacked. That’s not his fault, and I truly feel bad that his father isn’t even known, but he lacks the confidence and self assurance that is gained through a positive fatherly figure. To put it bluntly- what environment do you think a child would do best under: A succesful widowed father who works very hard (even still) or a single mother who doesn’t even know who the father of her child is, and has no dignified career whatsoever.